Nice Butts.... BUT!!If you notice the "recent" Hindu weddings, the entire family and friends will be crowding the wedding stage (manavarai) for no apparent reason.
For the bride/groom and their family - realize a few things:
1. You have invited your guests, and they might be coming from all over the country, or even around the world. All they get to see is your relatives wide butts.
2. It's VERY disrespectful.
3. It shows lack of planning on your side.
4. It shows people on the stage have no common-sense, etiquette, and manners (by blocking the audience).
In Hindu culture, we invite our family and friends so that they could shower blessings to the wedded couples through the aksyatai's. So, as a guest, how can we bless you guys, when these group of relatives block our view? Without you realizing it, your invited guests would in fact CURSE you (via their negative thoughts or words) and the wedding ceremony. Isn't this defeating the purpose of inviting them in the first place?
Why are there amateurs, holding on to their mobile phones, IPhones, IPads, etc.. at the wedding stage, when they are not the appointed photographers? Emotions aside (the bride or groom might be your dearest), but can't you guys THINK for a second that there are hundreds and thousands (behind you) who wants to share/observe this auspicious occasion as well?
And who gave the authority for the official videographers and photographers to block the view of the audience? If you can't take the videos from a proper angle, doesn't that reflect badly on your professional service? Are you guys lacking experience in understanding this basic thing - that you have not been given any authority to block the view of the audience?
Don't you know that in our culture, seeking the blessings from family, relatives, friends, arundhati, and others, are MORE important that the culture of PASAR (wet market) environment that you guys are creating in the wedding stage?
Please do make it a point to:
1. Announce in your wedding card for the guests to be PUNCTUAL.
2. Make it formal by announcing in the card that only PARENTS / GUARDIANS, maapilai tholan, ponnu tholi are required to be ON STAGE. The rest, however important you are, though you are a family member, please stay either AT THE SIDE, or below (possibly in the first few rows - if they are considered VIPs in the family).
3. Appoint someone to monitor this, and to politely usher these "crowds" to their seats.
4. Hire Professional Videographers / Photographers who could respect the audience and the importance of their blessings.
Please have a thought on this. And please be considerate. YOU make a difference in the next wedding that you attend. Guard the etiquette and our culture. SHARE this so that everyone can be aware of the importance of this once-a-lifetime ritual.
Author: Nehru Nagappan