Sunday 10 March 2013

Nice Butts.... BUT!!





Nice Butts.... BUT!!

If you notice the "recent" Hindu weddings, the entire family and friends will be crowding the wedding stage (manavarai) for no apparent reason.

For the bride/groom and their family - realize a few things:
1. You have invited your guests, and they might be coming from all over the country, or even around the world. All they get to see is your relatives wide butts.
2. It's VERY disrespectful.
3. It shows lack of planning on your side.
4. It shows people on the stage have no common-sense, etiquette, and manners (by blocking the audience).

In Hindu culture, we invite our family and friends so that they could shower blessings to the wedded couples through the aksyatai's. So, as a guest, how can we bless you guys, when these group of relatives block our view? Without you realizing it, your invited guests would in fact CURSE you (via their negative thoughts or words) and the wedding ceremony. Isn't this defeating the purpose of inviting them in the first place?

Why are there amateurs, holding on to their mobile phones, IPhones, IPads, etc.. at the wedding stage, when they are not the appointed photographers? Emotions aside (the bride or groom might be your dearest), but can't you guys THINK for a second that there are hundreds and thousands 
(behind you) who wants to share/observe this auspicious occasion as well?

And who gave the authority for the official videographers and photographers to block the view of the audience? If you can't take the videos from a proper angle, doesn't that reflect badly on your professional service? Are you guys lacking experience in understanding this basic thing - that you have not been given any authority to block the view of the audience?

Don't you know that in our culture, seeking the blessings from family, relatives, friends, arundhati, and others, are MORE important that the culture of PASAR (wet market) environment that you guys are creating in the wedding stage?

Please do make it a point to:
1. Announce in your wedding card for the guests to be PUNCTUAL.
2. Make it formal by announcing in the card that only PARENTS / GUARDIANS, maapilai tholan, ponnu tholi are required to be ON STAGE. The rest, however important you are, though you are a family member, please stay either AT THE SIDE, or below (possibly in the first few rows - if they are considered VIPs in the family).
3. Appoint someone to monitor this, and to politely usher these "crowds" to their seats.
4. Hire Professional Videographers / Photographers who could respect the audience and the importance of their blessings.

Please have a thought on this. And please be considerate. YOU make a difference in the next wedding that you attend. Guard the etiquette and our culture. SHARE this so that everyone can be aware of the importance of this once-a-lifetime ritual.

Author: Nehru Nagappan
Fb: nehru.nagappan


19 comments:

  1. Hi,

    I do agree with everything, except for the part where you were talking about photographers and videographers where they block your view for your blessings. I'm a fellow photographer, so I'm asking this humbly,where else can a photo and videographer stand if not right in front of the bride and groom?

    And to answer your question, humbly I would like to say that, The authority to block the view of the audience are given by the bride and groom, so that we can capture the memories of one of the most important day in their lives. They trust us in capturing all angles and views of their beautiful and memorable day. So we are doing are job properly.

    Again to quote you, we (photographers and videographers) know the importance of blessing, and everyone does have an opportunity to come on thr stage and bless the newly married directly to them instead of throwing rice from all the way down.

    I'm not replying this out of any heartache or else, just would like to justify why we do what we do. Thank you

    Best Regards
    Maheshan.S
    Photographer

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    1. Was a great reply... I'm a fellow Photographer too.. We need a space to capture their memory on their big days..

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  3. They is always have alternative or options angles, not necessarily always same... Rocky MOV (Facebook)

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    1. raelly bro? i remember u yelling at the priest ask him to move away so that he doesn't block your view in one of the event that i did the photography and u did ur videography. this is case to case, scenario to scenario basis issue. how is that one rule for you and another for other people?
      regards,

      vicknes
      vip studio

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  4. Very much agree with this article. The butts show is getting larger day after day, not only on stage wedding but at temples as well. The event owner should put up a restricting sign board on the stage. Now days no body reads the wedding card in detail.

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  5. Very much agree with this article. The butts show is getting larger day after day, not only on stage wedding but at temples as well. The event owner should put up a restricting sign board on the stage. Now days no body reads the wedding card in detail.

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  7. Dear photographers and videographer -

    i) Plan ahead; visit the venue, have a chat with bridegroom and wedding planner.

    ii) On the actual day; use the right lens, equipments, get right angle and communicate with others, get event manager or someone from the family to usher .

    Thats really help.

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  8. Would like to add in... pls if possible avoid newly wedd couple kissing n hugging scene inside the temple vicinity for photography or video session.. it's not our culture n pls respect our Temple...
    My 2 cents...

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  9. Would like to add in... pls if possible avoid newly wedd couple kissing n hugging scene inside the temple vicinity for photography or video session.. it's not our culture n pls respect our Temple...
    My 2 cents...

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  11. Think the author should be considerate with his words for its very rude and putting up wedding pictures of this kind shows a lack of maturity in some ways considering the people (family in the pics) .. Being a member of a Perumal Temple, I believe he is aware of this sloka of the gita and try to practice in his words and display: "He who is free from malice towards all, is friendly and compassionate towards all beings, free from the feelings of “I” and “mine”, even-minded in pain and pleasure, forgiving, ever content, steady in meditation, self-controlled and possessed of firm conviction, with mind and intellect fixed on Me – that devotee of Mine, is dear to Me ~ Bhagavad Gita"

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    1. you can see people's face in my photos above? :)

      I appreciate your comment, and I have consciously taken photos without revealing any details, frontal faces, location, date, etc.

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